The Trouble with “Normal”
Beyond the Chromosome: Celebrating the Remarkable Gifts of Our Down Syndrome Artisans The trouble with “normal” is it blinds us to brilliance. We all carry invisible scripts about how people should talk, behave, create, or show up. And when someone steps outside those lines, our instinct is often to label it “off.” But “normal” isn’t neutral. It’s inherited, shaped by culture and habit. And too often, it narrows our vision, keeping us from truly seeing what’s in front of us. We learned this in the most unexpected way — during an art workshop. The day a clown surprised us all Each participant was asked to pick a slip of paper with a word to draw. Prithvibabu, a young man with an intellectual disability, opened his slip: clown. He bent over his sheet, sketching slowly, carefully — quivering lines, flying tufts of hair. Ten minutes later, he held up a drawing of a dancing clown: colourful, dramatic, and full of character. We were stunned. Not because he could draw, but because he had captured the spirit of a clown in such vivid detail, far beyond what any of us had expected. In that moment, we realised something uncomfortable: our surprise said more about us than it did about him. We hadn’t expected that level of expression or detail. Why? Because we were unconsciously measuring him against “normal.” And that’s the problem. “Normal” creates blind spots. It keeps us from noticing brilliance when it shows up in a different form. Shifting away from "normal" That experience with Prithvibabu made us think deeply about the ways we get stuck on “normal.” Here are a few reflections that help us catch ourselves: 1. When “odd” really means unfamiliar Often, what feels unusual isn’t actually wrong — it’s just outside your frame of reference. 2. The scripts we didn’t know we were following Eye contact, tone of voice, body language — we treat these as universal truths, when they’re really cultural habits we’ve absorbed. 3. Discomfort as a mirror If something feels “off,” it’s worth pausing to ask: is it really off, or is it our expectation being unsettled? 4. The beauty of different expressions What matters isn’t polish, but meaning. Prithvibabu’s clown wasn’t about neat strokes or textbook proportions. Its life and energy was brilliant. 5. Talking difference into “normalcy” The more openly we talk about difference, the less threatening it becomes — and the more we begin to see it as simply another way of being. Seeing beyond “normal” Being stuck on “normal” makes our worlds smaller. We miss out on the creativity, insight, and richness that come from people who think, express, and live differently. Stepping outside “normal” isn’t about lowering expectations. It’s about expanding them. It’s about seeing the full humanity and potential of people around us — whether or not they fit the scripts we’ve been taught. Maybe that’s the real trouble with “normal”: it Read Full Testimonial